Top Tips to Add Calm into Your Life - Post 2

Calm - Post Two

Yesterday I talked about how I wanted to be calmer in stressful situations and why being calm is so important

Today I want to give you some down to earth advice on how you can implement calm into your life

Calm comes from creating enough inner space that you can respond calmly instead of in a reactive way.

When you’re not constantly braced for danger (fight or flight/reactive mode), your decisions get clearer, kinder to yourself and others, and far more aligned with who you actually are. You are in complete control, the situation is not in control of you

TOP TIPS FOR CALM

Start the day with one minute of stillness

Not meditation perfection, just one quiet minute before the world gets you.. Slow breath in, slow breath out. This interrupts the “wake up → rush → react” loop and signals safety to your nervous system

When you feel stressed - Name what’s actually happening in your body

Fear often shows up as tight shoulders, shallow breathing, or a knot in your stomach.

When you label it—“My chest feels tight, I’m overwhelmed” your brain shifts from survival mode to awareness. That awareness gives you control and then gives you choice.

Use the 90‑second rule - but take longer if you need to

Emotions have a chemical lifespan of about 90 seconds.

When something triggers you, pause. Let the wave pass before you speak, text, or decide. Most reactivity dissolves if you give it that tiny window. If you need longer, take longer. G for a walk, put the phone down, be alone.

Create micro‑moments of regulation throughout the day

Calm isn’t built in one big practice; it’s built in tiny resets. These micro‑moments keep you steady so you don’t tip into overwhelm as easily.

• A long exhale while waiting for the kettle

• A shoulder roll before opening emails

• A slow breath before replying to a message

Ask yourself one grounding question before making decisions

Fear-based decisions feel urgent. Calm decisions feel spacious. Try:

• “If I wasn’t scared, what would I choose?”

• “What outcome would I be proud of tomorrow?”

• “Is this a real emergency or just my nervous system shouting?”

This shifts you out of survival mode and into clarity.

Reduce inputs that spike your nervous system

• Fewer notifications

• Less doomscrolling

• More boundaries around draining conversations

Your brain can’t feel calm if it’s constantly being yanked into alertness.

Move your body to discharge stress

Fear is physiological. Movement, Pilates, walking, stretching, running, literally clears the stress hormones from your system. Even two minutes of shaking out your arms or marching on the spot resets your state.

End the day with a “release ritual”

Your brain needs a signal that the day is done.

• Write down three things you’re letting go of from the day

• Stretch for two minutes

• Take five slow breaths

• Meditate with an app to help you for 10 minutes

This tells your nervous system it’s safe to power down.

Why these things work

Calm isn’t the absence of stress. It’s the ability to stay anchored while life happens around you.

When your nervous system feels safe, your brain stops scanning for danger and starts scanning for solutions. That’s when your decisions become more intuitive and focused, instead of reactive.

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